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David Hawkins, M.B.A., M.S.W., M.A., Ph.D., is a Christian clinical psychologist and Director of the Marriage Recovery Center (marriagerecoverycenter.com) in Mill Creek, Washington. He has helped bring healing to thousands of marriages and individuals and is passionate about working with couples in crisis. David is also a speaker and trainer for the AACC and a best-selling author of more than 30 books, including Never Fight Again… Guaranteed! and When Loving Him is Hurting You.

treated many men in the past seven years in our compre hensive treatment program for emotional abuse. Those who desire to stay in their marriages may find hope with appropriate treatment. Summary Narcissism typically is about deep, early wounds and re quires intensive treatment to heal. Most narcissists will not engage in this lengthy treatment. On the other hand, abusiveness is typically a learned behavior and has been reinforced in many unintentional ways. Too many men have mistakenly learned that they have the right to dominate women—that they can keep their abuse hidden and still function effectively in society. This must stop! It is time for us to learn more about the distinction between narcissism, narcissistic personality disorder, and emotional abuse. As we gain clarity, we cannot continue to offer the extreme counsel of “stay and pray” or “run for your life.” Instead, we must help individuals and couples seeking our help gain clarity so they can make the best decisions possible. ;

Endnotes 1 Bancroft, L. (2014). Why does he do that?: Inside the minds of angry and controlling men. Berkley Books.

2 Bancroft, L. (2014). 3 Bancroft, L. (2014).

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